Be the You, that you are already capable of being, but need help refining, re-directing, re-focusing on. And getting to it, unlocking, unleashing, being braver, nurturing yourself by tending to your needs, unspoken feelings – thoughts and patterns. Starting your thought process over, reflecting on what was, resolving issues we have in ourselves that keep horse blinders on, but never get dealt with effectively. There are various stem points to discover, and sometimes our friends overlook them, we overlook them, and do not realise we may be the only thing in our way
– Melissa Palmer, Evolving mirror
Too many of us are getting by the days doing a productive lot from sunrise till dark and the only time we feel we give to ourselves and take the “space”, where we have our own secretive ways to unwind and many prefer this time to be just by themselves, is considered as connecting with oneself. It is of course needed for the purpose of revitalising and also to get away from the general disturbance of life around us, to get that little moment of connection with the hidden silence within each of us. Only you understand what that silence speaks and only you can tether to it on dark days.
Why is it that even though we have friends and family to talk to about anything under the sun, feelings are notorious for being a failure in the expression of words. Specially feelings that are most personal to us and some of us live in the fear of even facing them let alone opening the classified book we have built ourselves as, to anyone else.
A very important realisation is that in order to really bring down the barriers we create for ourselves at certain life points (only very familiar to our sub-conscious) is to climb over the barriers and inside your own ocean of thoughts. Not with the rendering thought of getting lost in that ocean, but to find your anchor. To find the waves that are really changing the course of your ship. First step towards that is to lose the fear of acceptance. The step following that would be deep analysing of the roots deeper into the realm of that ocean.
Every negative thought you are carrying in your head has a niche from where it stems. It could be an incident or certain deeper suppressed feelings (probably suppressed from before when you did not want to share it in the first place). What we don’t realise is that everything has a connection to something and that everything can be untangled to give you a straight line of thought just for yourself. How nice would it be to get rid of them? And to once in a while (or when it is needed) clean that mess only to learn new things about yourself and understand yourself so clearly so as to deal with situations. It sounds long and deep but it is really a fast process for the shooting neurones in your brain, not to mention the quickest way to attain actual peace. This may require dealing with self criticism and finding your own flaws only to open yourself to solutions, because you do not want to continue living with certain feelings and unnecessary pessimistic opinions which are in a way becoming the obstacle to your own development. Life is unfair we say but how many of us actually try to improve ourselves and mainly our thinking only to find that that had been the hindrance to our own happiness all along? If our journey is about education and family and getting the best out of the days, it is also about absolute cognisance of our own selves, however we are, and with the aim of strengthening fragility.
The best thing about this is that it will aid you to apprehend the people around you better and become patient. It is a data analysis of your weaknesses with the absence of others’ opinions which never defined your reality in the first place. Don’t forget to be true to yourself in this examination and also not be staid in this ride of lost oceans.
– Shreya Gupta (firstname.lastname@example.org)